Contentment

Being content is one of the hardest things to do. At least, I know it is for me! I feel like I’ve been waiting my whole life for the next thing… waiting for a husband, a baby, or an adoption to name a few. We all look forward to what is to come, what might be, or what we wish would be. There certainly isn’t anything wrong with hoping for good things and good futures, but what about the right now?
Our church ladies and some friends are reading through a book about contentment. This contentment is primarily defined as a deep satisfaction with God’s will. We’ve only delved in as far as the first chapter, and I know this road on contentment isn’t going to be easy and it will never end, but I’m looking forward to having rest and peace in my heart. I like how the author compares it to a path, where we are not alone, and that we get pop quizzes where we either pass or fail but we continue down the path. We have to practice contentment so when those pop quizzes show up, we are ready for them.
Life is full of really difficult trials for some women who suffer with miscarriages, infertility, and infant loss. There are so many questions as to what’s wrong with me, why me, why is God doing this to me. But knowing that God is doing this for us, and not to us, is a correct perspective. Knowledge that contentment is going to help us get through our trial is almost a relief. “Understanding this helps us read what is happening to us as designed by our good Father who is growing us up in Christ. Difficulties are not for nothing. They grow us. And this growth is faster when we are stewarding the difficulties with contentment.” Being content isn’t going to happen overnight or after a simple prayer. It’s going to be work, and it’s going to such rewarding work because we will find rest there.

A Bit About Me

I grew up in Oregon on a grass seed farm. I love the smell of smoke, particularly field burning. My neighbors were my closest friends, and we would often play at our river, avoid skunk families, and climb tractor tires.
I am a “jack if all trades” type of person so I generally can do almost anything well, and nothing perfectly. My favorite college classes were flower arrangement, handbells, pottery, and transcription.
Coffee is one of my love languages, and wine, bread, and butter are all good too.
I married my husband when I was 32, and 5 years later he is still my favorite addition to my life. We have two boys in heaven, Christian and Titus.
We live in Alaska, and boy is it dark and cold in the winter! It’s a fairly fun state though with lots of available outdoor activities. I like snowshoeing and would like to do more of that this winter.
We are so excited to adopt There are so many things about adoption that people like to ask, but I don’t mind answering them. I feel encouraged when people ask about it, because it shows they care. Waiting is hard, and excitement wains sometimes, but being a family of 3 (or more) again is our hope.

Be In Love With Your Life

Sometimes life doesn’t seem so pleasant. We become disappointed with our circumstances or discontent with what we do or don’t have.
The things I have and the situation I’m in does not change who I am in Christ.
Being content is so much of a happier place! It’s amazing how being good stewards of our belongings helps toward being grateful for the things we do have and in turn being content with what we have.
I am so grateful for our church’s ladies book group and the challenge to read Nancy Wilson’s book “Learning Contentment”. It’s fairly easy reading and is so refreshingly Biblically centered. I challenge you to read it also.
Today I’ve been cleaning up the office, organizing, and finding things I’ve lost. I’m looking forward to having a clean space to work from. Also, December is coming and I like to participate in the December Daily Scrapbooking. It’s so fun to look back on the Decembers past and the joy of the season.
I came across this quote this year, and I found myself not liking it because I didn’t like my circumstances at the time. But I’ve found, that God’s plan for my life is something I should be content with. “Be in love with your life. Every minute of it.”

Five Items for Any Adoption Registry

Adopting a child is so exciting and I’ve heard people are hesitant to create an adoption registry before being matched and waiting for placement. It’s a good idea to shop now for your adopted infant or child, and it can even help you stay excited during the wait. Of course, all adoption situations are different, but here are 5 items that I recommend that are perfect for any infant adoption registry. After all, there are things that every baby will need no matter the gender or age.

Car SeatAdoption Registry Car Seat

If you own a car or plan to ever transport your child, you are going to need a car seat. I’m sure there are huge debates about safety, price, features, and type of car seat so picking one out can be rather a chore or you can make it into an adventure. Personally, I went with safety and price and got the Chicco KeyFit 30, but there are lots of budget-friendly and budget-busting options that you might prefer.(affiliate link) For the researchers: check out ratings and reviews. For the trendsetters: check out celebrity baby blogs. For more advice on picking out a car seat, check out the Pregnant Chicken’s post about finding the best infant car seat.

Adoption Registry CribCrib

Ok, so cribs are a totally personal choice and while I love my white Jenny Lind crib you may love your portable play crib because of the versatility. But, really, the baby is going to have to sleep somewhere so finding that place before you get a baby isn’t such a bad idea. Just like with car seats, there are so many options to choose from. I suggest picking something that gets the job done. Finding something that fits your style, sets a certain vibe, or is handmade are just personal preferences and don’t actually help your baby sleep better. While you’re at it, pick out some crib sheets and a mattress pad. (affiliate link)

Adoption Registry Gift CardsGift Cards

Stocking up on certain baby items like clothes or diapers might not be a great idea if you are adopting because you just don’t know what you’re going to get. All those tiny newborn size diapers and onesies are so cute, but they won’t work if you bring home a 10-pound baby. What will come in handy are gift cards to buy the items you need once you know you need them. Add gift cards to your adoption registry for your favorite places to shop for baby things (like Baby Gap), and hopefully, you’ll have loads of fun shopping. (affiliate link)

Professional Services

I’m totally going to encourage the use of professional services such as house cleaners, meal providers, and even yard service. Feeling overwhelmed after bringing a baby home is probably nothing new. Taking care of the baby might be a top priority, but so many other things don’t get taken care of because all the focus is on the baby. Don’t get me wrong, life goes on and nobody really cares if the lawn gets mowed, but having it done will just give you peace of mind. Adding professional services to your adoption registry is a great idea for the long-distance gift giver, or some of your friends might sign themselves up to provide the service. Having practical needs met after having a baby are some of the best gifts.

Adoption Go BagAdoption Registry Go Bag

Having a small bag of items ready for your baby is super fun to assemble and helps you prepare mentally. Here are some ideas that you can get ready ahead of time by putting them on your registry, and I just put everything in an athletic bag that I can use as a carry-on at the airport. What’s in the bag is totally up to you, but I added a couple gender neutral sleepers and onesies, a baby blanket, pacifier, hair bow if it’s a girl, swaddle, and some cute clothes for pictures or taking the baby home from the hospital (thank you Target clearance section). Personally, I like this part, as it is going to set the vibe for the first couple days with your baby. (affiliate link)

Making an adoption registry can be just as fun as any other registry, so have fun and don’t rush the process! Also, don’t buy anything just because somebody says you should.

Adoption Waiting

Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God. -Corrie Ten Boom

Adoption waiting is hard.

Adoption waiting is hard. It’s downright ugly sometimes. And the little angel on my right shoulder is annoying me, because getting sad and grumpy and frustrated feels so good. Waiting is certainly not fun and it isn’t something we usually enjoy. It’s not something we normally choose for ourselves. But when adoption is chosen, the wait begins. The wait to start a family, or in our case to be a family again, becomes a raw desire. The shortness of life and our value of the time we have left on earth seems to place a precious value on time, so when we have to wait for a child and time keeps passing it feels so wasteful.

Outside influences are plentiful, and everything can somehow remind me of the wait that I’m experiencing. The seasons change, the holidays come and go, and another month without our baby goes by. So many people offer cute little quotes about adoption waiting which only sometimes helps because we know they mean well, and then other days it seems to hit home as though it was the perfect thing for our hearts at that moment.

Adoption waiting is exciting.

Maybe I’m being emotional, but I feel like I’m not. I’m not crying all the time, or talking about our future adoption all the time. But there are so many things that keep me thinking about it. Just knowing that if we got a drop in the lap adoption we would be a family of three as early as tomorrow has me plotting scenarios in the my head and thinking about logistics, who I need to call first, and what am I going to pack.

This waiting for the baby is kinda like waiting for a surprise that I know is coming. I’m being surprised with a baby that I know nothing about. I’m looking forward to this exciting adventure ahead—finding out about the birth mother, what state the baby is from, what kind of music the baby will fall asleep to, and if it will be twins or a boy or a girl. This wait is growing with anticipation, and that is part of why the wait is so hard and seems so long.

So this wait that I’m experiencing is hard because it is exciting. Waiting for God’s blessing in our lives seems even harder because we know we will be blessed. But I am confident that he is finding the perfect baby for our family, and we are just waiting for him/her to be born.